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Gillian Longworth McGuire's avatar

Many years ago I was at a reading by Jhumpa Lahiri when she was just starting to work on her book in Italian. She said something that I think about all the time. “My mother will never love me in English” I was with a bilingual American who spoke to her mother exclusively in English & her father exclusively in Italian. She burst into tears at the recognition of those words.

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janet grau's avatar

The thing about bilingualism and processing emotions makes me think about the time period when I lived in Mexico and became fluent in Spanish (a language I’m no longer fluent in, because I’ve been living in Germany for the past 24 years and German has been stomping on my Spanish for so long that I can barely speak it anymore):

While living in Mexico and learning Spanish, I had a chance to practice speaking every day, practically all day long (I had to--I lived with a family who only spoke Spanish) and was surprised to see a different “me” emerge in this second language. I became a person who’d react quite strongly (emotionally), to things I found pleasurable, using flowery language like “that enchants me” (me encanta)--something I would never say in English. The fact that Spanish uses this form (it does that to me) rather than the way in English, we “do” all these things ourselves (I like, I love, I drop things).

And somehow this opened me up to things there that I didn’t and don’t like in my own culture, for example, country music (rancheras). I would sing along with the taxi driver while on longer drives, join in the group singing in a local pub when someone pulled out a guitar and started singing. Even cried while listening to Chavela Vargas singing Flores Negras. These are all things I never did while living in the States, nor have I done anything similar since moving to Germany.

Somehow, in the Spanish-speaking part of me, I am able to enjoy the passionate expressions of emotion in the cheesiest of music, in poetry, in art and film. And I feel I was a different person while I lived there.

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